Where is my heart

Where is my heart? I have been asking this question for the past sixteen years now and still is for I have not found the answer. I was married to my beautiful wife had wonderful kids and everything was perfect. I had a job that pays me well. My wife is successful in her career as a school administrator and have a flower shop business  that is constantly visited by florist, business was doing good and everything was perfectly perfect.

To tap it all, I was living the good life which is envied by most people but deep inside me I am empty and seeking for something that might fulfill me as a person or better yet as a human being. I just can't figure it out what it was that I am seeking or who could it be that I'm searching.

I have tried a lot of endeavors from cycling to extreme sports like bungee jumping just to deviate my longingness of this elusive something and hoping that the sudden rush of adrenaline might eradicate the emptiness deep within.

When we talk of my wife, I can't vouch that she is the problem, it's just but normal to any relationship that quarrel do sprout but we see to it that we settle our differences before going to bed.

Where is my heart? this question keeps on rising but just could not provide the answer.

Why should I let go

Women are vulnerable in a relationship. I am not saying that they are the weaker sex but it is innate in a woman's physiology to understand their boyfriend even though it is obvious that they have been taken for granted or worst cheated.

Most often women are the savior, they play the role of a god taking time to fit every puzzle but to some extent can not restore the pieces that was once was. So why women would hold on to what is no longer mendable? The answer is fear. Fear of losing and letting go is scary.

Fear itself is fear, theres nothing that could change the meaning but facing your fear could change your perspective and norms in life and that goes with letting go. What's the use of keeping something that does not work well for you or holds you back from moving on. It will just imprison you in the past and living you hoping that things will be alright soon and at the end of the day it's going to be me and him.

Saving a relationship is just fair, if and only if your partner opts you and not someone else or his illusion of becoming someone he is not.

Kate Upton the reason for Justin Verlander’s bad performance

A few days back I have written an article about Kate Upton being a sex siren and how her career soared by being a bikini model. I molded and depicted her as a young, free-spirited, flirt, liberated young girl who really knows how to flaunt her God-given, curvaceous body. I mean it is really not an issue if men would drool seeing her, but losing a baseball game is another thing.

Detroit Tigers lose their game because of the bad performance of their pitcher, Justin Verlander. It is quite odd for a seasoned pitcher to give up four hits and walk two. Verlander was loved by his fans because of its superb pitching ability and stingy moves on the mound. The Verlander that was once was is not present during the game. He was physically  present but mentally in wonderland.

Rumor has it that Kate Upton was the reason for Justin Verlander’s bad performance. It was said, that the two were seen hanging out last Thursday and Friday respectively before the game in close proximity. I don’t know what happened to Justin or what Kate did to Justin and place the whole team in jeopardy. It was clear that Kate stole something that is rightfully Justins’. It must be returned and returned in an instance to bring back the sanity of Verlander and save Detroit Tigers from going down the drain.

Going back in time, in every mans failure there is a woman behind, Samson loss his strength because of Delilah cutting his hair, the great Alexander failed to proceed in conquiring the rest of the world because he fell in love with Egypt and its reigning queen Cleopatra, the late dictator Ferdinand Marcos never stood a chance in extending his term as president for his wife Imelda Marcos trig a coup d’etat.

I don’t blame Kate Upton for having been blessed with great physique that mesmerize men nor blame Justin Verlander from performing badly in the last game.  They are just two individuals caught in a whirlwind that compliment the rule of magnetism.

I don’t agree with the notion that Kate is a jinx , I mean if you could only see the beautiful body of Ms. Upton that is complimented with an angelic face for sure it could also spell a difference in a mortals perspective.

She is one mortal that is enveloped by the aura of a goddess making her the obsession of every mans fantasy.

Overcoming stress and anxiety

What is stress and anxiety? As Webster would define stress, “a force exerted when one body or body part presses on, pulls on, pushes against, or tends to compress or twist another body or body part.” While anxiety on the other hand is “painful or apprehensive uneasiness of mind usually over an impending or anticipated ill”. These words are synonymous to one another and not one is much aggravating than the other.

We humans are born to experience these earthly dispositions that causes tantrums and weakness in our physical being both mind and body. Not one individual is exempted from this undertaking and we must lived with it, understand it and find ways to overcome stress and anxiety, but how?

I have been working for nineteen years now in a pharmaceutical company, and if we talk of stress and anxiety, I have more than a handful of weakening dose and drunk hundreds even thousands of stress tabs, sleeping pills and vitamins just to offset the pain brought about by this devastating circumstance.  Pain is alleviated temporarily, days pass and it’s back. So, I have formulated an acronym of the word ANXIETY and STRESS to manage and overcome it since we can never eradicate these words for as long as we are living in this planet.

A – Apple

as the old cliché goes “an apple a day keeps the doctor away”, I believe in this for fruits not only apple remove toxins in our body. Without toxins our body functions well and our mind is focused on the positive aspects.

N – Norm

Set  daily goals each day to achieve. Make goals that are realizable so as not to frustrate your self if you fell short.

X – Xplore

Explore things that are new and that catches your interests’. Do not dwell on the monotony of office work.

I – Importance

Give importance to others and give appreciation as well. In return they will return the favor which makes it a network of positive vibes.

E – Evolve

Transform yourself join the crowd and don’t be left behind. join gatherings and be involved. “if you are in Rome be a Roman.”

T – Training

Attend seminars and trainings that are social development oriented

Y  – Your

No matter what others say to you be it positive or negative, You are the boss. You are the captain of your ship. You think therefore you are. But listen to criticism acknowledge the positive and learn from the negative.   ANXIETY

S – Smile

Always wear a smile it makes your day and everyday a beautiful and wonderful day.

T – Time-out

In every ball game there is always a time out, when things get hot it’s time to cool down and take a break from office work.

R – Relax

Relax is quite similar to time-out. Go to the beach and unwind, drink beverages that cools you and have fun with friends and love ones.

E -Excercise

I love playing tennis or go to the gym to lift weights. This is good for cardio vascular routines and eliminates stress.

S – Speak

Say what is on your mind. Be true to yourself. But be wary for speech can also be very destructive to ones emotions. Say things in a nice way so as not to offend.

S – Sing

Videoke is an alternative, voicing out your anger and for sure this will eliminate STRESS.

I have written this article to share to you how I manage stress and anxiety and hoping this will be helpful…….